レアジョブ受講 第5回 about children

今日は朝からレアジョブでした。
7時始まりでしたが、息子が寝ていてくれたのでレッスンを受けられました。

朝のレッスンを受ける時には必ず、
"I'm a bit sleepy. I'm out of it."(ちょっと眠いのでボーっとしてます）
と言ってしまいます。

それにしても、今日の講師はとてもいい講師でした。
的確な質問を次々にしてくださり、沢山話させてくれました。

一部ですが備忘録として残します。


Ｑ：For you, what is the best way to discipline your child?

I think the best way is to be a role model for my child.
Because I have to show what the good thing is and what the bad things is in a daily life.

Q: They sometimes have mood swings. 
What do you do when they are in a kind of mood. 

I try to distract their attention from what they are obsessed with.

For example, if my son wants to get a new toy in the store and starts to cry bitterly,
I start to talk about the different topics, which sounds more fun.

Of course, it doesn't work sometimes.
But, If I force him to do what I want him to do, he would strongly refuse to do it.

Q: How about spanking? Do you do that sometimes?

I've discussed it with my husband before because I wanted to have same idea about it with him.
Also, if you have a different idea about it, it can be a big problem in the family.

We decided that spanking was my husband's job.
If both of his parents do that, he would get stressed so much.

My husband is not always at home.
So even though he is really strict, that wouldn't pressure him.


Ｑ：What was the worst thing your child did?

He can't explain what he is feeling and express himself well.
So he easily hit me instead of talking with me when he are stressed out.
He tends to express physically.

I told him " You shouldn't do what you don't want others to do".

No matter what the reason is, he is never allowed to hit me at home.
I told him no matter what the reason is, he is never allowed to hit girls.
This is very important because it would be how to treat their wives in their future.




講師は、

I set only two rules because kids can't remember many rules.
They have to follow at home, they have to follow in school and in the country.
If I set many rules at home, it's becoming annoying.

と言っていました。確かに

Even though I set many rules at home, my son can't follow all of them and
doesn't know what is the most important thing.


ですよね。